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– Flannery O'Connor


Sayfish: The Challenges of Trying to Put into Words the Experiences of Spirit Marriage
The term sayfish metaphorically captures one of the challenges of being in an inter-dimensional marriage.

Lavavoth
Nov 8, 20232 min read


Dropping the Euphemisms: Sexual Encounters with a Ghost (My Spirit Husband)
I wish I could say that my relationship with Hans is a perpetual "mystical love affair" as my drawing title indicates.

Lavavoth
Nov 7, 20232 min read


The Verboten Love Affair
As I process what it means to be married to a spirit, the term verboten culturally enslaves my relationship with Hans and deems it demonic.

Lavavoth
Nov 5, 20232 min read


My Wingmann: The Intimacy Between the Living and the Dead and the Challenges of Making Love to a Spirit
Although he had been a fighter pilot in Germany in his previous life, equipped with his own wingman, now, as spirit, he is not here to lead.

Lavavoth
Nov 4, 20232 min read


His Winged Embrace
It’s hard to find the words to describe what it’s like to be held by a spirit, by a subtle being devoid of skin.

Lavavoth
Oct 6, 20231 min read


A Return to Blogging
A lot has happened since the last time I posted, including transferring schools and PhD programs.

Lavavoth
Oct 4, 20231 min read


A Bombing and a Past Life
Nothing could prepare me for what I would endure when I found out about Pan Am 103 exploding over Lockerbie Scotland.

Lavavoth
Jul 28, 20214 min read


His Ghostly Presence in the Mirror: Using Creative Writing to Document Paranormal Encounters
If you are interested in writing about your paranormal experiences, consider using fiction as an option to disclose your story.

Lavavoth
Jul 3, 20218 min read


One Step Up, Two Steps Down: A Semi-Poetic Response to Nonlinear Spiritual Development
Resistant to the call, disdainful and intolerant of embarking on such a path, spirituality arrived like a sledgehammer.

Lavavoth
Mar 18, 20213 min read


Embodied Cohabitation: Spirit Communication with Hans Using the Tarot
A tarot reading with Hans explores spirit communication, attachment to a former home, and the painful process of moving forward.

Lavavoth
Mar 5, 20215 min read


Visitation Dreams: Rethinking Dream Language
Exploring visitation dreams, astral experiences, consciousness, and the limits of traditional dream language.

Lavavoth
Sep 10, 20203 min read


A Spirit Marriage: Celebrating Ten Years of Paranormal Love and Nearly Three Decades of Spiritual Guidance
A reflection on spirit marriage, paranormal love, spiritual guidance, and ten years of intimacy with a discarnate partner.

Lavavoth
Aug 24, 20202 min read


Meeting My Spirit Husband
Meeting my spirit husband did not unfold in a subtle and gentle way. The initial connection unfolded during a creative surge.

Lavavoth
Jan 8, 20204 min read


Never Let You Down
Do you remember all the sounds, when I found you by the lake, and how the water seemed to call your name?

Lavavoth
Jan 2, 20181 min read


The Race Dream and Hans
His desire for me to know his identity was apparent from the start, but I was not ready to confront his shadow.

Lavavoth
Nov 16, 20173 min read


Nocturnal Visitation: Ich sehe dich in der Ferne
Early this morning, around 3 or 4 am, ich sehe in der Ferne, I see you in the distance, hovering in the black void, smiling...

Lavavoth
Nov 14, 20172 min read


Controlling the Uncontrollable: Potamophobia and the Writing Process
What was supposed to be a four-day weekend of editing my story, ended up being a basement flooding nightmare.

Lavavoth
Jul 7, 20175 min read


Occupied Flesh: 1940 - 1945 The Erotic Years as a Mirror to My Spirit Union
The Erotic Years, 1940 – 1945 is a controversial picture book depicting trysts between Nazi soldiers and French women in occupied France.

Lavavoth
Feb 24, 20172 min read


Haunted Berlin, Part 2: The Berlin Wall
In Berlin, Germany, a visit to the Berlin Wall becomes an encounter with World War II soldiers moving through the field, appearing without warning.

Lavavoth
Dec 26, 20163 min read


Haunted Berlin, Part 1: The Flak Tower
In Berlin, Germany, the flak tower becomes a point of entry into a city where the past presses in and something unseen begins to surface.

Lavavoth
Dec 22, 20164 min read
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